Finding Your Voice to Speak the Truth

When a relationship is toxic, it is very common for the person on the receiving end of abuse to stop speaking up and using their voice. In order to stop “making waves” and an effort to not “set off” the abuser’s anger, we tend to say and do anything we can so...

Addiction to Toxicity

What do you do when your identity is so closely tied to someone else and then you end up by yourself? Once you were a wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend…. Now you are solo and just… you. Who is that? Typically in unhealthy relationships the couple are...

He Doesn’t Hit Me

“He (or she) doesn’t hit me.” Have you said this before? Or maybe you’ve heard this from someone else? Far too often, people say that they aren’t experiencing abuse because they haven’t been physically hit. Listen to this: “He/she just cusses...

Words of Control- Not Love

“If you leave, then I’ll kill myself and it will be your fault.” “I have nothing to live for if you are gone.” “You are my world. Without you there is just darkness.” “Life has no purpose without you.” “What’s the point of anything, if you are gone?” These...

Who Am I?

Run! Hide! Be quiet- don’t let them hear you! Look away- don’t make eye contact! Be as small, as quiet and “less than,” as you possibly can. Don’t be seen. Don’t be heard. Learn to blend in and not stand out…. This is the life of someone being...